Is loving and living once you pass 50, 60 and beyond any different than before?
Probably the best answer is no . . . and yes.
The game is the same, but the playing field may look a bit different.
The linked article notes that the cuckold fantasy is much more common among men than you might guess and asks what that is about.
First off, when it comes to what turns any particular guy on, there's really no accounting for what or why.
Second, if something is exciting and there's a consensual, mutually positive way to bring it out into the open and enjoy it . . . why not? Are you planning to live forever? Who besides your partner do you need to please now?
Even thinking about it together is likely to be a positive.
Should employers whose religious beliefs not have to provide birth control drug coverage to female employees?
If they are not required to, should employers with deeply held beliefs about erection enhancing drugs for male, be required to include Viagra, Cialis, and the like in their drug plans?
A couple of views on this are published in the link below.
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Infidelity, as hurtful and damaging as it is, is not an "open-and-shut" case against the relationship's ultimate survival and long term growth.
Cheaters reportedly are finding each other more often on Facebook than at the office.
Anything new from this bit of interesting trivia? Probably not in the big picture. Putting your primary relationship on top of the list of things taking your attention and effort remains the place to focus.
Forgiving a cheater can make you healthier in the long run, both mentally and physically.
It does require more than letting go and moving on, however.
The positives that must accompany those two are being able to truly feel compassion, understanding, empathy for the person who has hurt you.
Easier said than done? Of course. Worth the commitment and effort? Absolutely!
Otherwise, you end up dragging the hurt around for a long long time.
Why older men have affairs includes reasons that go with aging.
So, now the Ambassador to the UN to be, is the focus of a crowdsourced campaign to prove that she has engaged in infidelity?
That it HAS to be investigated this way now because foreign intelligence services are going to dig it up otherwise?
Wow! Just when I started thinking that nothing in political realm would amaze me any more.
Adultery at work is prevalent according to some sources. Makes sense when you think about how much time both men and women spend at work and how much shared stress goes along with that.
One study out of the UK claims to have identified specific types of workplaces where infidelity is most likely to occur.
You can check it out at the link below.
Here's an article from an investing advice newsletter no less!
So long old friend. We'll miss you.
Here's another sage article about infidelity - How to Spot a Cheater.
So why do we keep falling into this trap?
There must be something that we're not taking into account. Hmmm
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Conflict management in relationships determines whether the inevitable differences and disagreements lead to something positive or something negative.
Being healthy and happy are good for both aging and relationships
As you age it becomes less and less likely than you will learn new skills, create new things, enjoy new music, etc.
Why is that? Scientists have "known" why for a long time, BUT turns out sometimes they were right and sometimes they were wrong.
If you want to catch up on the latest knowledge in this area, take a look at the linked video of a presentation by Robert Sapolsky, Stanford Professor, and a very smart entertaining guy.
Be sure you can set aside about an hour because it is that long and it's a great talk and you won't want to stop.
It's great food for thought and as is so common, there's some good news and and some challenging news.
Projection in relationships is most likely going to happen to some degree of other.
The question is not how to stop it (though that would be ideal), but rather how to recognize situations in which you are likely to use it to defend against your own discomfort and then consciously employ other strategies.
Being the receiver of someone else's projection upsetting. In fact, it can be downright "crazy making."
The natural question is "How can I make them stop?"
Quick answer: you can't.
Projection is defined as a largely unconscious defense mechanism.
It's always dicey to solve a problem by getting someone else to change. If they most likely don't know they are doing it, it gets even harder.
Since projection is a defense mechanism or coping style, they don't experience it as doing anything to you. From their point of view, they are doing what they have to in order to "keep it together."
When you find that your partner has cheated on you, there are some predictable traps that you might fall into. Different people tend toward some dead end responses more that others. You might consider which ones you are most likely to fall for.
Hopefully, being forewarned can also being forearmed for you.
For some it can be tempting to act as if nothing has happened or changed between you. It does avoid conflict, for a while a lest, but comes at a longer term cost.
Others, will be tempted to look for ways to get revenge. It's a lose-lose.
There's an interesting article that discusses these and more. See the link below.
Senior sex isn't the same as it was 40 years ago.
Here's a provocative opinion piece on how there is a different standard for women whose husband cheats than for men whose wives cheat.
What do you think? Is this view accurate? If it isn't, why would the writer think it is? If it is, would it be better if infidelity sorted out differently? How might that happen?
Infidelity has been the topic of the day for so many days that it's hard not to wonder is it's true that everyone is doing it.
Maybe it depends on which circles you move in.
Anyway, every time I hear that I can't help but remember my mother and all my friends' mothers saying "Well . . . if everyone jumped a cliff, would you?"
Relying on projection in coping with stress is not an ideal strategy
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