Loving and Living After 50, 60 and Beyond

Is loving and living once you pass 50, 60 and beyond any different than before?

Probably the best answer is no . . . and yes.

The game is the same, but the playing field may look a bit different.

Jul 05, 2018

Cuckold Fantasy In Senior Years

The linked article notes that the cuckold fantasy is much more common among men than you might guess and asks what that is about.

First off, when it comes to what turns any particular guy on, there's really no accounting for what or why.

Second, if something is exciting and there's a consensual, mutually positive way to bring it out into the open and enjoy it . . . why not? Are you planning to live forever? Who besides your partner do you need to please now?

Even thinking about it together is likely to be a positive.

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Oct 10, 2017

Erectile vs. Birth Control Medication Politics

Should employers whose religious beliefs not have to provide birth control drug coverage to female employees?

If they are not required to, should employers with deeply held beliefs about erection enhancing drugs for male, be required to include Viagra, Cialis, and the like in their drug plans?

A couple of views on this are published in the link below.

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Jul 12, 2017

investing psychology

Mastering investing psychology is crucial, especially for retirement

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May 05, 2017

Fear of Missing Out

Fear of missing out on making money can be a big as fear of loss

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May 05, 2017

Infidelity Over 50

Infidelity, as hurtful and damaging as it is, is not an "open-and-shut" case against the relationship's ultimate survival and long term growth.

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Jan 05, 2017

Facebook Cheating Reported to Have Taken Over First Place

Cheaters reportedly are finding each other more often on Facebook than at the office.

Anything new from this bit of interesting trivia? Probably not in the big picture. Putting your primary relationship on top of the list of things taking your attention and effort remains the place to focus.

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Dec 27, 2016

How to Forgive a Cheater

Forgiving a cheater can make you healthier in the long run, both mentally and physically.

It does require more than letting go and moving on, however.

The positives that must accompany those two are being able to truly feel compassion, understanding, empathy for the person who has hurt you.

Easier said than done? Of course. Worth the commitment and effort? Absolutely!

Otherwise, you end up dragging the hurt around for a long long time.

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Dec 27, 2016

why older men have affairs

Why older men have affairs includes reasons that go with aging.

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Nov 29, 2016

Nikki Haley accused of infidelity

So, now the Ambassador to the UN to be, is the focus of a crowdsourced campaign to prove that she has engaged in infidelity?

That it HAS to be investigated this way now because foreign intelligence services are going to dig it up otherwise?

Wow! Just when I started thinking that nothing in political realm would amaze me any more.

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Nov 21, 2016

Adultery At Work

Adultery at work is prevalent according to some sources. Makes sense when you think about how much time both men and women spend at work and how much shared stress goes along with that.

One study out of the UK claims to have identified specific types of workplaces where infidelity is most likely to occur.

You can check it out at the link below.

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Nov 13, 2016

Meditation in the 21st Centruy

Here's an article from an investing advice newsletter no less!

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Nov 12, 2016

Leonard Cohen - 1934-2016

So long old friend. We'll miss you.

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Nov 11, 2016

Infidelity - What Everybody Knows

Here's another sage article about infidelity - How to Spot a Cheater.

So why do we keep falling into this trap?

There must be something that we're not taking into account. Hmmm

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Nov 10, 2016

Mindfulness Practice For Relationships

The potential rewards of mindfulness practice for relationships are not only strong, but unique to each.

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Nov 10, 2016

Conflict Management In Relationships Over 50

Conflict management in relationships determines whether the inevitable differences and disagreements lead to something positive or something negative.

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Nov 10, 2016

Aging and Relationships

Being healthy and happy are good for both aging and relationships

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Nov 09, 2016

Brain Plasticity and Aging

As you age it becomes less and less likely than you will learn new skills, create new things, enjoy new music, etc.

Why is that? Scientists have "known" why for a long time, BUT turns out sometimes they were right and sometimes they were wrong.

If you want to catch up on the latest knowledge in this area, take a look at the linked video of a presentation by Robert Sapolsky, Stanford Professor, and a very smart entertaining guy.

Be sure you can set aside about an hour because it is that long and it's a great talk and you won't want to stop.

It's great food for thought and as is so common, there's some good news and and some challenging news.

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Oct 29, 2016

How to Limit Your Own Projection in Your Relationships

Projection in relationships is most likely going to happen to some degree of other.

The question is not how to stop it (though that would be ideal), but rather how to recognize situations in which you are likely to use it to defend against your own discomfort and then consciously employ other strategies.

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Oct 24, 2016

Projection: Can you stop someone else from doing it to you?

Being the receiver of someone else's projection upsetting. In fact, it can be downright "crazy making."

The natural question is "How can I make them stop?"

Quick answer: you can't.

Projection is defined as a largely unconscious defense mechanism.

It's always dicey to solve a problem by getting someone else to change. If they most likely don't know they are doing it, it gets even harder.

Since projection is a defense mechanism or coping style, they don't experience it as doing anything to you. From their point of view, they are doing what they have to in order to "keep it together."

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Oct 21, 2016

What NOT to do after your partner cheats

When you find that your partner has cheated on you, there are some predictable traps that you might fall into. Different people tend toward some dead end responses more that others. You might consider which ones you are most likely to fall for.

Hopefully, being forewarned can also being forearmed for you.

For some it can be tempting to act as if nothing has happened or changed between you. It does avoid conflict, for a while a lest, but comes at a longer term cost.

Others, will be tempted to look for ways to get revenge. It's a lose-lose.

There's an interesting article that discusses these and more. See the link below.

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Oct 20, 2016

Senior Sex

Senior sex isn't the same as it was 40 years ago.

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Oct 14, 2016

Infidelity Aftermath for Women Different Than for Men?

Here's a provocative opinion piece on how there is a different standard for women whose husband cheats than for men whose wives cheat.

What do you think? Is this view accurate? If it isn't, why would the writer think it is? If it is, would it be better if infidelity sorted out differently? How might that happen?

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Oct 13, 2016

How Many People Actually Cheat?

Infidelity has been the topic of the day for so many days that it's hard not to wonder is it's true that everyone is doing it.

Maybe it depends on which circles you move in.

Anyway, every time I hear that I can't help but remember my mother and all my friends' mothers saying "Well . . . if everyone jumped a cliff, would you?"

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Oct 13, 2016

Projection in Coping with Stress

Relying on projection in coping with stress is not an ideal strategy

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Oct 12, 2016

Conscious Relationships

Conscious relationships have the most to offer

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