Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be both a sign that things are not working right with the body, mind, & emotions, and also be a cause of things not working right in the same systems.
It has strong effects on relationships. In the best of cases the changes can make relationships stronger and more enjoyable even if the specifics of the dysfunction cannot be completely turned around. In the worst of cases, it can result in the destruction of emotional and physical intimacy.
It definitely merits a trip to the doctor. Inability to get or keep an erection can an early warning of developing underlying conditions that are affecting circulation, sometimes showing up before any other signs. Having a clearer picture of your situation from a medical perspective is definitely the first step.
There are lots of things to do about ED. Some are medical, some psychological/emotional, some mechanical, and some in the diet/exercise/healthy life realm.
Of course the topic itself may make taking action a bit difficult at times, but the stakes are high and once you get going, it gets easier. What wouldn't you be willing to do if could make this problem go away or at least retreat?
The the penis is complex set of tubes, compartments, arteries, veins, and nerves.
The largest portion of it is made up of two chambers filled with spongy tissue, which run the length on each side. These are the spaces that fill up with blood causing the whole penis to get hard and stand up erect. The spongy tissue contains smooth muscles, fibrous tissues, spaces, veins, and arteries.
The urethra, which is the channel for urine and ejaculate, runs along the underside of the corpora cavernosa and is surrounded by the chambers of spongy tissue.
Erection begins with physical or mental stimulation, or both.
Impulses from the brain, the spinal cord, and local nerves cause the muscles of the two chambers of spongy tissue to relax, allowing blood to flow in and fill the spaces. The blood creates pressure, making the penis expand like a balloon. The chambers trap the blood within them, thereby holding the erection.
When the muscles in the penis contract to stop the inflow of blood and open outflow channels, erection is reversed.
The system is a marvel (or accident waiting to happen, depending on how you look at it) of thoughts, feelings, muscles, nerves, and blood interacting in just the right way.
Bring another person into it and the complexity is mind boggling. Indeed, that it works so well so often for so long.
The National Institutes of Health will tell you more than you want to know on this topic. I have put some of the high points from their description on this page. If knowing all the details is helpful to your process you can get their full description....CLICK HERE
Here are some things that have been mentioned in various places as potentially being involved in erectile dysfunction
vascular problems ( blood, arteries, veins, etc.) In fact, recent studies seem to be showing that it can be an early signal of developing cardiovascular problems. Find more on erectile dysfunction as an early sign of other problems here.
And . . . if you smoke, stop. It's a killer going and coming.
Don't let yourself get into a hopeless mode.
Talk to your doctor about it. If you feel like you can't talk to you doctor, it is important that you do something about that.
Anyway, right now the list includes
HINT: Did you know that the nerves that control erection are different from the nerves that that are involved in feeling and orgasm? Think creatively here.
Earlier I suggested that you consider ED to be the inability to get and/or keep an erection that will do what you want it to do. That depends on what you want it to do. Oh, the medical sorts will still define the system as dysfunctional, but after we leave their office we still have a life to live and get something out of.
Mick Jagger had this one bang on when he said that you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you can get what you need. Who knows? Maybe he was having a bout of erectile dysfunction at the time.
Is calling erectile dysfunction "relationship challenge" cruel, the understatement of the century, blind optimism, or just plain pragmatism?
Maybe it is a bit of all four, but what choice do you have?
After the situation is as clear as possible from the medical perspective . . . and only then in my opinion,. . . you will want to check out one or a couple of the following. They all are available immediately and come with a 60 day no-questions return policy. (I've used the return policy on occasion and it was indeed no hassle.)
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While the medical and physical options are the place to start, . . . the psychological and relational side of this situation can actually result in some very positive things happening . . . no matter what the result of the medical intervention.
Coping with impotence
calls for involvement of mind, body, and spirit in ways that can indeed
make aspects of life and aging and relating better and more rewarding
in ways that cannot be predicted before you start doing it. For a bit
more on this topic CLICK HERE.
When you can't get it up, the list of assumptions and beliefs that come pouring into your head about being a man, being with a woman, sexual attractiveness, human frailty, and others that we didn't know we had can be pretty frightening.
This calls for a lot of informed, respectful, and direct talk between you and your partner if things aren't to take off in a bad direction.
Find a discussion of specific things that you can do to give yourself the best chance of positive results from talking about your ED here.
If you are the partner of a man with ED, find more on talking with him about it here.
More InformationAmerican Urological Association (AUA)1000 Corporate
Boulevard, Linthicum, MD 21090 Phone: 1–866–RING–AUA (746–4282) or
410–689–3700Fax: 410–689–3800Email: firstname.lastname@example.orgInternet www.auanet.org
AUA can refer you to a urologist in your area.
American Diabetes Association (ADA)Attn: National Call Center1701 North Beauregard Stree,t Alexandria, VA 22311Phone: 1–800–DIABETES (342–2383)Internet:www.diabetes.org
ADA can help you find a doctor who specializes in diabetes care in your area.
American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)P.O. Box 1960 Ashland, VA 23005–1960Phone: 804–752–0026Fax: 804–752–0056Internet:www.aasect.org
Check the AASECT website to find a certified sexuality educator, counselor, or therapist in your area.
National Kidney and Urologic Diseases Information Clearinghouse3 Information Way Bethesda, MD 20892–3580 Phone: 1–800–891–5390Fax: 703–738–4929 Email: email@example.com Internet:
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