An emotionally excruciating time

Divorce for men over 50 can be the beginning of a very difficult, often a devastating difficult, time emotionally.

In the time following a divorce it is not uncommon for men to describe experiencing such things as

  • anger
  • resentment
  • anxiety
  • insomnia
  • panic attacks
  • deep sadness
  • loss of self-confidence
  • inability to love and trust women
  • feeling out of control

Emotionally, divorce for men often consists of being blind-sided by one thing after another. Sometimes a guy's reaction will focus on just one area.

While it is true that it will pass, in some form or another, to one degree or another, with some degree of resolution, all roads DO NOT lead to the best resolution. Life does go on. In the dark days after the divorce, the real question is not whether you'll survive or not. You will survive. The issue is to what degree you will move forward and come out stronger and wiser, not just surviving.

Unfortunately, us men have been culturally, systematically trained to resist falling apart emotionally. Most of the time that works out pretty well.

It's just that when it comes to the really big changes in life: births, deaths, divorces, illness, etc., "taking it like a man" is a prescription for more pain. The more feminine approaches of going with the flow and letting the feelings wash through you tend to work better.

So . . . how do you do that? Ah, there's the rub! Remember how I said that us guys were culturally trained practically from birth to be tough, don't let it show, soldier on (the list is practically endless)?

"Pick him up, walk him around, he'll be fine."

A quick tour of the internet looking for help in "divorce for men" will bring up a number of sites about how to fight the good fight through the divorce process, how not to get cheated, etc., etc., but precious little on what happens after the divorce and before the next phase of life, how to forgive (or decide not to).

I have uncovered one program that is available, affordable, and seems to be taking a well thought out, honest approach to moving on. Men After Divorce - The Complete Guide to Post-Divorce Recovery

This is an affiliate link and I will get a commission if you buy a product there. What you pay will be exactly the same whether you go through my link above or you Google it and buy it directly from the author. It's your choice.

In any event, I urge you not to take this stuff lightly or think that it's the manly thing to do to just try to bull your way through it. Divorce is a big jolt to your heart, your mind, and your soul and trying to steer a macho course through it is a recipe for making it even harder. Look for help in moving through it the softer, smarter way where ever you can find it.

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