When Byron Katie wrote Loving What Is she handed us an incredibly simple, powerful tool, gave us some simple directions and examples of how it might be used and then stepped back inviting us to see what we could do with it.
From Stephen Mitchell's introduction that opens with the following quote from Spinoza
"The more you clearly understand yourself and your emotions, the more you become a lover of what is."
to Byron Katie's final chapter on doing the Work in your own life, the book is a coherent mix of what, why, and how.
For me at least, a funny thing often happens somewhere between an acceptance of the notion that what is is and truly acting as if it were. When it is my life there can seem to be an endless storehouse of "reasons" why, for me in this circumstance at least, it's different. And yet, our tendency to do exactly this is no secret.
in the way Spinoza meant it I don't "clearly understand" at that
moment. And that is where Byron Katie comes in with her four questions
and guidelines for doing the work ourselves.
In the book she describes it this way - -
Actually, typing 100 words a minute or
reading 800 words a minute or playing the piano are really quite simple
too at the core. The part where most of us run into trouble is after the
teacher says "OK, that's right. Now just do that over and over until
you can do it the way you want to."
For me at least, there was some of this "ok now just keep doing it" in doing the Work myself, but by following along the suggestions from the book it has gotten to be quite effective for me incredibly quickly.
she goes on to state each of the four questions, give specific directions for how to work with them (you do your own work in writing), and then gives a examples of doing the work on a number of different topics.
It is very doable and I recommend it highly. In addition to the book, you can get a great deal of specific information on doing this style of personal inquiry at www.thework.com
It dovetails quite well with Michael Brown's Presence Process and though they both state their belief that the process is essentially empty of values until you find and insert your own truth, I think that she succeeds at this better than Michael Brown.
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