Relationship Psychology of Women

The relationship psychology of women has been described as being likely to include

value being together, relating, being close, and get uncomfortable when they feel disconnected
talk with their partner to get support, understanding, unless they specificaly ask for help
be naturally focused on feelings and process more than things
have an internal dialogue that relates to feelings and relationships
be comfortable talking about fears, worries, feelings ( and usually have not had the experienced of being penalized for doing it)

Of course knowing about relationship psychology of women is only a starting point. When it comes to being in a relationship with a woman or being a woman in a relationship, all that matters is what she is (you are) thinking, feeling, wanting, expecting.

So, what can you do with these gender specific thoughts, feelings, values to whatever degree they are affecting your relationship? And how can you use this to be smart about being pro-active given the tendencies described in the psychology of men in relationships?

First, you have to start with accepting what is. If you have any emotional charge about any of these, the best place to start is with some form of inner work before you try to talk with your partner about relationship issues.

One good place to start is with the Four Questions described in Byron Katie's Loving What Is.

Another is with the focused attention, breathing program described in detail in Michael Brown's The Presence Process.

Or, use some other method that works for you, but be as clean as you can about differing basic viewpoints on relationships that will be coming with you into a discussion of specific issues.

The action steps then include

studying up on what thoughts, beliefs, asumptions, values, expectations a woman is likely to be bringing to the process, be they yours or hers.
doing your own internal work on any emotional charge you may have about these differing viewpoints on the same topic between you.
review the concept of relationships stages
now with a clean, positive mindset, honestly and effectively start communicating about the specific issues at hand.

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