Internet infidelity is dangerous because you can start out innocently enough and end up with trouble. It tends to move in a gradual, subtle way that you probably don't notice as being as dangerous or dividing as it can be until it is too late.
Most often it doesn't look or feel like infidelity. After all, there is no real person on the other end . . . initially at least, or maybe even never.
It can start as an effort to fulfill some desires that aren't being addressed in your primary intimate relationship. It appears to be a way to do that without taking the risks involved in having an affair. If it stopped there, it might turn out well enough.
Since it appears to be anonymous, it can seem to be the perfect place to look into sexual practices that here-to-fore were relegated to the "no-one-but-me-could-possibly-be-turned-on-by-that" category.
Type in the right search questions and all of a sudden you have access to a whole world of people, millions and millions or people, where if even a tiny fraction of them are interested in what you are, there are too many for you to even talk to all of them.
By your own internal logic there can be very good reasons to turn to the internet.
Within your own psyche these can all be very "good reasons" to do it and to not see it as cheating. The reasons hang together in terms of your own wants, needs, beliefs, and abilities. "There has to be sex for there to be an affair." "There has to be a real emotional attachment for there to be infidelity." The problem is that while each of us works from within a personal, internal reality, we also function in a world of multiple perspectives, needs, wants, and beliefs.
Problems with the online solution include
Internet infidelity is another tricky version of the risky business of going outside your primary relationship to fulfill your wants and needs. It may start for apparently good and caring reasons, but it often lays the groundwork for disaster ahead.
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